If online dating in your 40s (or heck, at any age) feels intimidating, you’re not alone. With a seemingly endless array of dating sites to choose from, it can be overwhelming to figure out which will help you find what you’re looking for. To help break down all of options, we spoke with relationship therapists and experts experienced in the art of online dating. Whether you’re looking for a fling (or three), or hoping to fall in love, or, you know, both, here are the best dating sites for folks over 40.
How to choose a dating site for people over 40
Callisto Adams, PhD, an AASECT-certified dating expert and founder of HeTexted, recommends reflecting on your ultimate relationship goal first. Do you want something casual, serious, or somewhere in between? Are you divorced, a single parent, widowed, and looking for someone whose been through similar? Or have you thoroughly enjoyed being single, but would appreciate someone to grab pizza with on Sundays? There’s an app for that too.
“Pick the app that will allow you to meet people who have the same mentality as you and whose goals align with yours,” Adams says. Of course it’s not exactly a science, and there are exceptions to the popular apps and what they’re known for, but in general she says, “If you’re looking for a younger partner or something short-term, then Tinder or Bumble is a great choice.” For something serious or long-term, she recommends Match, eHarmony or Hinge. Once you’ve chosen the app or apps (there’s no harm in using a few), she suggests creating a detailed profile that clearly communicates your dating goals.
The best dating sites for people over 40, at a glance
This OG dating platform is a classic for a reason. If you’re over 40 and want a user-friendly app, top-notch algorithm, and ability to connect with serious, high-quality matches, this is a solid option. “Match continues to be one of the best dating apps—particularly for people over 40—if you’re looking for serious dating opportunities,” Nashira Kayode, PhD, LCSW, a licensed therapist in Eastvale, California, tells Glamour. Users are often financially invested in the app and, in turn, invest in finding a match.
According to the brand’s website, 44% of Match members are between ages 30 and 49, 37% are over 50, and 59% are single parents—making it a solid option for folks in the 40+ age bracket who want to find a compatible partner. Match also services 24 countries and territories, making it a helpful option if you’re not based in the US (or are searching for international love).